How motherhood can change a person


Becoming a mother is a big step in your life. Not only do you have a new bundle of joy; you also will have plenty of new experiences, responsibilities, joys, and challenges. Motherhood is an event that will shape the person you are going to become, and change you in ways that you never would have imagined. If you are about to have a child, or have a young one, you’re probably wondering how motherhood can possibly change you. While each mother is different and your experiences definitely contribute to the ways motherhood can change you, here are a few ways you can expect the maternal instinct to shape you as a person.

You’ll anticipate situations in ways you never did before

parent and child Pre-baby, you would have looked at the kitchen bench and shrugged off the utensils lying about; after you have a child, however, you’ll begin to notice that the forks could be dangerous, or that the chopping board should always be put away – just in case. When you become a mother, you are constantly going to think about the safety of your child, and this can mean seeing concerns or danger in situations that you would have otherwise been oblivious to. It doesn’t matter if it’s the report on TV about a new virus that’s spreading, or a newspaper article about parenting and child custody – chances are, after you have a child you’ll think of everything in terms of your little one.

You’ll understand and appreciate your own parents more

Remember when you were younger, and you wanted to do something that your parents refused to let you do? Chances are, they would always justify their decision with “you’ll understand when you’re older” or “one day, when you have kids of your own, you’ll see”. Unfortunately, they were right – motherhood is a big eye-opener when it comes to your behavior, and the behavior of others around you. After you realize how challenging and rewarding it is to raise a child, you’ll have a newfound respect and appreciation for everything your parents went through while they were raising you into the wonderful adult that you are.

holding baby feet You’ll love someone more than you ever knew possible

There is no bond in the world stronger than the one between a mother and her baby. It doesn’t matter if your baby is 8, 18, or 28, – you will still always think about them, worry about them, miss them, and love them. From the minute you hold your baby in your arms for the first time, to your child’s first birthday, first steps, or first words, you will find something magical in every moment you spend with your child. And even when they’re a teenager, or they have left the house to go to college, you will find that there is a special place in your heart just for them. One of the most important and valuable ways motherhood can change a person is this: you’ll finally understand what it means to truly love someone unconditionally.


Andie Lane is a mother who has grown and changed so much since she had her first child three years ago. She’s currently pregnant with her second child, and is looking forward to all the new joys, adventures, and challenges that they will bring to her life.


6 thoughts on “How motherhood can change a person

  • October 15, 2012 at 1:22 pm
    This is all too true! I also have those moments about my parents with "oh, that's why they said X and gave no real explanation why"! Reply
  • October 12, 2012 at 10:33 pm
    So true! I never knew I could love so much. <3 Reply
  • October 12, 2012 at 12:40 pm
    This is so true. My kids have changed my life for the better, and I never would want to go back! Reply
  • October 11, 2012 at 10:56 am
    This is a great post! Having my son changed me in so many ways, I've become a stronger woman because I became a mother. He has become the most important thing in my world, and as long as I have him, I'm happy. I thank God everyday that I'm a mommy! Reply
  • October 3, 2012 at 5:47 pm
    So true! Especially about anticipating dangerous situations. My kids will probably think I'm over protective but oh well. It's for their benefit and I know that they too will understand when they have kids of their own. Reply
  • October 3, 2012 at 11:18 am
    I enjoyed reading your post, especially since my kids are at school right now and it made me think of them. I'd like to add that Fatherhood also changes a person. I will admit it was very difficult in the beginning with my first son. I had to adjust and understand that it was no longer about me but "us". I love my boys more than anything in this world and am very greatful for everyday I have with them. Reply

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